Managing other’s expectations when planning your wedding

Posted on January 31, 2014 at 8:42 am

Author As You Wish
Tags Pure English, Virginia Bride, Virginia Bride Magazine, wedding

Recently I was invited to participate in an article for Virginia Bride Magazine regarding a popular topic; managing expectations. Our team will spend months working very closely with our clients during the course of their engagement and we often see the stress and pressures that is put on them regarding their wedding and the decisions surrounding it.

Before I share the article I want to say that I am a strong believer in being true to you, and yourselves as a couple when planning a wedding. I definitely think it’s important to be respectful of your families and their wishes and traditions, but it’s a two way street and the respect needs to be given both ways. I think sometimes parents have trouble accepting the fact that their child is growing up and able to plan an event such as a wedding without their help. Which brings me to my next point. A wedding is a milestone which is defined as an action or event marking a significant change or stage in development. Throughout the course of our lives we experience several of these but a wedding signifies that an individual is committing themselves to another, forever changing the dynamic that each of their families were used to.

When a couple gets engaged and begins to plan their wedding there is so much excitement surrounding it. Unfortunately, as time goes on and more decisions are to be made the wedding can become a source of contention instead of excitement. My focus in college was psychology and I love having the opportunity to use it every day in my career. I LOVE having the ability to be a calming force and counselor to my clients. My office walls have seen mothers cry, couples fight, and an abundance of eye rolls, in addition to utter joy and excitement of course. My desire for all of my couples and their families is to first and foremost have respect for each others desires and wishes regarding this life changing event, and remember to enjoy the process.

Enjoy the article!